dimanche 30 décembre 2018

Basics On How To Deal With Raw Emotions

By Kathleen Myers


We all have had to deal with various challenging situations in our lives at one time or the other. While it may be possible to sought out some of our problems fairly easily on our own, there are challenges that tend to be quite overwhelming and have the potential to drive us over the edge. In many of these cases we find ourselves at logger heads with the people we love the most and out raw emotions may end up putting a strain on these very valued relationships.

Emotional flooding is a term that is commonly used by psychologists. This term attempts to describe a situation in which one is bombarded by deep emotions and thoughts suddenly just like a flood. There is usually a single predominating feeling in the midst of all this. Such may be depression, hatred, sadness or anxiety. Commonly, the predominant emotion may change over time depending on the prevailing circumstances.

There are a number of well known triggers of deep emotions. They include, for example, recalling past events, the thought of a troubling future and present stressors. The affected individual tends to get lost in these thoughts to the extent of recreating the trauma and hurt suffered or is to be suffered. This serves to make things worse for them unless they adapt and develop a different perception of their situation.

One of the things that can help us keep our feet on the ground during the unpleasant times is to utilize controlled behaviour. Deep belly breathing and other manoeuvres to help with muscular relaxation have been shown to minimize stress. The benefits come in as small incremental improvements. The emotional flooding will tend to recur hence the need to keep practising the deep breathing. Practising regularly makes it easier to do it during the stressful situations.

Even as you look for ways of dealing with these feelings, it is important that you take steps in understanding them. In most cases, there is a lot of confusion when emotional flooding occurs. There is a need to firstly, acknowledge the presence of the feelings and, secondly, to be willing to make some changes. Failure to do this often results in what is referred to as a closed emotional loop that makes things worse.

Social support is quite useful and helps one in coping with emotional challenges. The unfortunate thing is that many people are hesitant in sharing their problems until It is too late. It is important to open up to at least one confidant who will stand by you in spite of your difficulties. Examples of social support sources will include, for example, close friends, colleagues, relatives and even religious leaders.

Sometimes all that is required is for one to simply take a break. It is difficult to handle and feelings when you have so many other things going on. Taking stock of your emotions in a quiet place will help you forge the best way forward. In some cases, you will be surprised to discover that there is no reason to feel bad at all. While at it, try to focus on the positives in your life and a reason to smile instead of sinking into self pity.

Handling deep emotions is not always easy. Very deep thoughts and feelings often isolate us from everyone else which makes it even more difficult to handle them. The first step when one finds themselves in such a situation is to understand the type of emotion that they are faced with. This will then inform their next course of action. Sharing your feelings with those who matter makes everything a lot easier.




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